10 Rules To Having a Successful Relationship

A relationship can be hard to maintain if there is no structure. There are many of us who jump head first into a relationship and wonder how in only a matter of weeks to months, the relationship is already taking a turn for the worst. One thing I can tell you is that it has a lot to do with you and what you're attracting into your life because it all starts with you! By the Law of Attraction, simply put, you get what you give. So in this article I will go over the fundamental traits that lead to having a successful relationship.

1. BE POSITIVE
The foundation to everything I speak of but is easy to forget is to be positive. Life is what you make out of it so if you aren't satisfied with what you have before you, then it’s time to change your perspective! You deserve to be happy and your partner wants you to be happy; otherwise why else would they be with you! When someone is happy, their energy is so radiant that it’s literally attracting others with the same energy. The same applies if you’re feeling low only now you’re attracting a negative outcome. Regardless of the situation and regardless of the day, always try to push yourself to look for the good things in your life, even if it means looking under rocks.
2. COMMUNICATE
No matter how deep into a relationship you are in, communication is always important. Through it we can express ourselves to our significant other in almost every situation. For some though, communication isn't our strongest which leads to constant arguments and misunderstanding. After all, many arguments are simply the result of miscommunication.
By having effective communication with your partner and vice-versa, you are less likely to have arguments and your bond will be much greater. My suggestion is to set aside some time every day to talk with your partner. It can be about anything such as what’s bothering you, your day at work, plans you wish to make. Take turns letting each other speak with little to no interruptions and do so calm, but assertively.
3. COMPROMISE
Whenever there is a disagreement between the two of you, you should always work together to find the solution. The important factor to remember though is to be fair. Once again, communicate with your partner and share opinions on what each of you consider to be fair. As partners, you should feel comfortable making decisions together and most of all working together! Need some practice?
Get involved in simple projects such as making a meal together, picking a movie to watch, or cleaning up the house. Any kind of activity that will involve team work will do just fine. With strong but relaxed communication, compromising with one another will no longer be an issue. Just remember to be fair and considerate to one another as both of you have outside needs that differ from each other’s.
4. REMEMBER YOU
Many partners tend to focus on their relationship or their partners more that they forget about themselves in the process whether they realize it or not. Just as you make time for your relationship to grow though, it’s important that you also make time to grow as an individual. Do you have a hobby you've been wanting to get back to? Have you been missing out on spending time with friends and family?
Have you been putting off time to exercise? Expand yourself in all areas of your life that need attention by starting with yourself. That way you will become a strong independent person who not only strives for your goals, but also someone who can manage their own relationships as well. Keep the balance and never forget about yourself.



5. BE FAITHFUL
This is a no-brainer, but unless you both have established that you have an "open relationship", you should be completely faithful to the person you’re with; most of all, be faithful to yourself! The truth is that you can make any relationship work but it all starts with what you are looking for in a person and who you are as a person. You determine the relationships that spring into your life, not the other way around!
By the Law of Attraction, you literally get what you want! So the next time a problem appears and you’re close to giving up, ask yourself what you’re manifesting into your relationship instead of blaming your partner or others. Most likely you will find that it’s only a matter of changing your thought process in order to have better results.
6. GIVE SPACE
Everyone needs space. No matter how much you love your partner and your partner loves you, we all need time alone. If you were with your partner 24/7, I guarantee that eventually you would start bumping heads with one another! Even if you aren't spending much time together though, if your partner requests to be alone, respect it as you would expect the same in return!
If there’s too much space between the two of you, this is where compromising comes into play and the two of you will need to work something out to where each of you are being fair. By giving each other space, there’s room for self-evaluation, and there’s room for personal growth. No one likes to feel smothered!
7. TRUST
Again, by the Law of Attraction you get what you believe. So if you don’t trust your partner, it most likely means that you also don’t trust yourself. For example, if you are suspicious of your partner when they tell you they’re going to spend some time with friends, whatever it is that you’re suspicion of will come true.
You are creator of the events that unfold before you and if you wish to trust and get trust, it all starts with what you believe in. If you’re insecure, do not blame your partner. Instead, take some time to see what it is exactly that you’re insecure about and figure out what you can do to turn it around. Sometimes all it takes is a little time working on ourselves to making our relationship with others, stronger.
8. BE ADVENTUROUS
All relationships go through a phase where the excitement dies down a bit; it’s natural to get bored. To keep the spark going, do spontaneous things together. Go skydiving, go camping, draw portraits of one another, go fishing. There are a variety of things to do that will keep your relationship interesting and going with the flow.
The two of you can also come up with ideas together and try them out. After some time of getting an idea of what the two of you like doing the most, write down all those activities and keep that list in a safe, and secure place. . .
9. BE HELPFUL
When it comes to our intimate relationships, we all need a little helping hand! If you see your significant other cleaning up for example, even if they don’t ask for your help, you should definitely considering helping anyways. Not only will they appreciate it, but also the act of kindness will send out good vibes to the universe and will take this into consideration.
Being helpful can be defined in many ways such as listening to one’s concerns, helping with a project, or taking care of dinner. Remember, what you give is what you will get in return so by helping each other out wherever it is needed, both of you will surely benefit.



10. LOVE
Last but not least, love. Love is the greatest energy anyone can have. A love that does not discriminate, a love that is open and willing to accept will never break to anything or anyone. Love always concurs. So love your partner for all they are and all they can be with you and you will be rewarded with many great experiences. No matter what obstacles life throws at you, and it will to test your energy, always remember that the purpose of life is to be happy and it’s through these obstacles that we learn to be with others and give back.
What are some ways you have made your relationship work out? Share by commenting!
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