Let's say you're settled firmly in the comfortable stage of your relationship. It's like the spark has been doused by its own personal ice bucket challenge, and the butterflies are long gone. Luckily, there are some easy ways you can get them to flutter their way right back into your stomach and revive your relationship.
Plan a surprise. You know what's more fun than getting a surprise yourself? Creating one for someone else. It can be as big as buying tickets for a cool band's concert before he gets a chance or as small as bringing his favorite beer home when you know he's had a hard day. It's all about capitalizing on the chance to do something unexpected.
Make out. A lot. And then don't let it go any further than that. That kind of teasing each other will make you want to have sex even more. When you finally do? Fireworks.
Seek out an adrenaline rush. Doing heart-pounding activities together actually makes you closer as a couple because you're working through the fear to get to the thrill of it. It's worth noting that this is the only love-life tip I would recommend from The Bachelor.
Catch up at night. It's easy to fall into bed, maybe have sex, then pass out night after night. Or maybe you two go to sleep at different times, or you use the hour right before bed to get in another chapter of the latest book you're into. That's all well and good, but start taking time at night to lie in bed and really focus on talking to each other even if it's just for 10 minutes. It provides an opportunity to make the other person feel listened to in a way that can be hard to incorporate during everyday life.
Have more sex. If you're not really feeling it, you should still give it a shot. Obviously I don't mean if you have an emotional or physical reason for not really wanting to! But many couples fall into a cycle where one person wants that physical intimacy and the other could either take it or leave it. If he's kissing you and you're like, "Hmm, this is nice, but I have things to do," just go with the niceness. The more you have sex, the more likely you are to start organically wanting it on your own.
Tell your friends why you love him. And get detailed. Saying the reasons out loud can help remind you why you fell in love in the first place!
Get competitive. This can range from doing couple's workouts to playing some intense board games. Pit yourselves against each other in any way besides a fight, and you can even incorporate some bets. First one to checkmate gets a back massage?
Schedule a regular date night. Lots of people think this is something that only needs to happen when you have kids, but that's not the case. It's exciting to get all dressed up and see him put in that effort too. To make it even better...
Get ready separately. If you share a home, he probably sees you during the entire getting-ready process, from the shower to the mascara application to the spritzing of perfume. Instead, have him get ready first, then take your time doing the same while he busies himself elsewhere. It guarantees a real wow effect, plus it feels more like it used to when you were first dating.
Try a new hobby together. Figure out something you've both wanted to do that you haven't gotten around to yet. Is it a mixology course? Or maybe a photography class? Dipping your toe into a new pool is inherently exciting, and you'll both realize how grateful you are to have someone nonjudgmental to ask your (totally not) stupid questions.
Put on a wig. Better yet, add an outfit you'd never wear, then surprise him with the new ensemble in the bedroom. It'll show him there's a side to you he's never seen before.
Spend time apart. Part of the reason couples get so comfortable is because they start spending 24/7 together! An easy way to remedy this one is by taking some time alone so it's more of a treat when you really get to be together. Make more plans with your friends, pick up a new hobby in addition to the one you're doing together, or stay late at work to get that promotion. Solo time will help you both keep evolving, which is key for a healthy relationship.
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